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Are you happy?

Are you happy?

The other night I was invited to a friend’s home for dinner.

I knew I needed connection (I may have stunned my friend with how quickly I said YES! to the invitation) and I also knew from experience time with my friend’s family would give me precisely the sense of community and grounding I needed.

As we sat down for dinner (post-hilarity which only happens when I’m involved in food preparation) my friend’s 10-year-old daughter went around the table asking each of us the same question. 

“Are you happy?”

I was momentarily stumped. 

I was happy in. that. moment. 

But was I generally, overall, day-to-day, living with a backdrop of joy and happiness?

I didn’t know. 

I don’t know.

Never one to hold up an entire dinner conversation with my navel gazing, I simply responded yes.

But the question remains with me. 

It stayed with me as we made our way from dessert to a nearby park (being outside makes me feel happy).

It lingered as I planned a surprise for my 13-year-old the next morning (doing unto others makes me happy).

It was in the back of my mind this morning as I gave a polite but firm NO in response to a favor-request which would have thrown my day off kilter (learning to draw boundaries has contributed to my happy). 

Are you happy?”

It can feel like a question reserved for those of us who have everything else all figured out.

Financial concerns. 

Career quandaries.

Parenting struggles.

It can feel like a question which comes after everything else, BUT what if we put that question first? 

What if, as my friend’s daughter did with dinner, we BEGAN with the question.

If we chose to prioritize our happiness with an awareness all else will fall into place after that?

I’m doing it.

30 days.

A happier US.

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Let's do this--TOGETHER.

 

5 comments

Apr 01, 2019 • Posted by Rachel

If happiness is a feeling, it cycles. If it is part of gratitude, it is a practice. If it is a state of being, it’s a process. Is it what’s on our face? In our bones? Happy… hmmmm.

Apr 01, 2019 • Posted by Jennifer York

I don’t think I’ve been happy in a long time. You’re right! I need to get my head out of my ass and make it happen! No one else is going to do it for me!
30 days? I’m in!!!

Apr 06, 2019 • Posted by Kate Kosman

“Happiness is a garden walled with glass: there’s no way in or out. In Paradise there are no stories, because there are no journeys. It’s loss and regret and misery and yearning that drive the story forward, along its twisted road.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Blind Assassin

I honestly find that a little more encouraging then Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.

Mar 25, 2019 • Posted by Haralee

Happiness is something that is so personal and unique! I think I was born happy and I don’t have to work at happiness. I know I am lucky because many people struggle with finding their happiness.

Mar 25, 2019 • Posted by Beth Havey

TODAY especially, it’s a tough question. Two things happened yesterday that made me sad—one in my family and one in general. But my ability to get up each day and face whatever is handed to me makes me happy and GRATEFUL.

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